the fat/skinny debate always seems to come full circle and all of a sudden we’re back at discussing about how men see us as if how men see us is the end all and be all of the conversation, thin shaming and fat shaming aren’t separate issues, they are apart of the same issue which is the policing of women’s bodies, pitting us against each other, making us hate each other for things we can’t control because of the male gaze, do you understand that as women we look at each other through the male gaze, that’s how prominent and all consuming it is in our society, we say “curves are good” bc men like curves but men only like curves in certain areas so if you don’t have all that going on then you’re useless to the conversation bc you’re useless to men and that’s not how it should be.
skinny “shaming” does not come from fat acceptance, it’s not a hard concept to understand, nobody is throwing skinny girls under the bus to raise fat girls up but instead trying to provide a space where fat girls can be heard, the same way skinny girls refuse to reblog pictures of bigger girls to their blogs, refuse to stand up and fight for bigger girls unless a bigger girl or a famous woman says “yes fat girls you exist and you’re amazing” and all of a sudden fat women are accused of skinny shaming even though ???? skinny girls refuse to put on for bigger girls???????
when you talk about “skinny shaming” you’re basically talking about how “reverse oppression” is real, i’m not going to relate it to racism or sexism or homophobia OBVIOUSLY but if you can’t see that skinny bodies are more privileged and sought after in our society and you wanna cry about “skinny shaming” just know that bigger girls are looking at you like you don’t know what the fuck you are talking about because you really don’t, when someone tells you to “eat a cheeseburger” it comes from a place of jealousy when you lose 15 pounds after having the flu you’re told “you look so good” it fucks with your head, when you’re told you “should eat a salad” it comes from a place of disgust, if all of a sudden you can’t eat and treat your body the way it needs to be treated bc you feel like you’re going to get fat, there’s a problem, there’s a difference there, it’s what fuels fat hate and issues with food
and it’s always the “health” thing people will say “well i just care about your health” while chain smoking on their way to a tanning salon, it’s bullshit, people don’t care about “health” they care about putting bigger girls down for the way they look in a way that a skinny girl who has been skinny her whole life will never ever understand
harry wearing the jersey of the first openly gay nfl player ever, who hasn’t even played an official nfl season game yet, on stage in front of tens of thousands of fans is such a huge and incredible sign of support and i hope that for once people realize that and respect it as the amazing sign of queer support that it is, without trying to belittle his actions and twist them into anything less than what they are
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"Do what makes you happy" - Harry Styles in The Official Annual 2015 +
- is overweight. not “a little heavy” or “curvy in all the right places”, she is overweight and she owns it.
- is gay, and from her first public exposure has been open about this
- has bipolar disorder
- is one of the coolest lyricists right now
- has this song which is way more feel good than “all about the bass” or “shake it off”
- is super cute
- mary lambert
Jon Stewart, The Daily Show, 2014-08-26, “Race/Off” [alternate link here]
The One Direction Guide to Friendship
how does something this small even exist? is this a pig molecule? i need to lay down a while
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